Stop Fighting.
Start Connecting.

Practically, Intentionally, and Playfully turn your parenting partner conflict into connection that with keep your couple relationship strong! 

Too Tired to Fight provides practical guidance for couples to improve their communication skills. This book is an incredible toolkit that offers tangible examples to navigate tricky conversations and build stronger relationships.”

—Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play

“This book is an invaluable resource for couples and parents. Many people think that conflicts are the sign of an unhealthy relationship, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. Too Tired to Fight provides a clear roadmap for how to navigate the most common parenting pitfalls and go from conflict to connection. Using real life dialogue examples and practical tips, it addresses the most common situations couples inevitably find themselves in. The way out is always through. Highly recommended.”

—Jessica Joelle Alexander, author of The Danish Way of Parenting

“Most parents barely have enough time to make dinner, let alone work on their relationship. Too Tired to Fight changes that: it’s full of simple, insightful strategies to help frustrated parents address and resolve inevitable conflicts. Raising kids can drive couples apart—Too Tired to Fight will bring them back together.”

—Melinda Wenner Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes

Parenting changes a couple’s relationship in fundamental ways, but most parents are too exhausted from the demands of life, work, and engaging their kids to prioritize their relationship. This can lead to repeated conflict and an overwhelming sense of anxiety, anger, hurt, and loneliness…just when you need your partner’s support the most. The good news: conflict is actually a sign that you are trying to connect with your partner—you’re just stuck in an old pattern of communication.

In Too Tired to Fight, Erin and Stephen Mitchell use their 20-plus years of counseling experience to walk couples through the 13 conflicts that are not just normal but necessary to keep a partnership strong once kids enter the picture, including:

  • The “Your Parenting Is Wrong” Conflict
  • The “I’m More Tired Than You” Conflict
  • The “Stop Choosing Your Family Over Ours” Conflict
  • The “Sex Life? What Sex Life?” Conflict

In each scenario, they show how this conflict plays out—and offer scripts, questions for reflection, and their tried-and-true Conflict to Connection Equation that couples can use in the moment to communicate true repair and resolution. Their secret: by expressing your feelings and intentionally listening to your partner—not just venting or reacting to your stress-response system—you can work through the “pain points” of parenthood together and actually make your relationship happier and healthier as a result.

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Reviews for Too Tired Too Fight

“Your fights will never be the same after reading this book. You will learn how to transform these inevitable moments of conflict into opportunities for better communication, intimacy, and connection. You will also get the tools, insights, and scripts you need to turn this novel approach to conflict into a lasting habit.” –Kaley Klemp & Nate Klemp, PhD

 Authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship

“A groundbreaking, insightful book that reframes how parents in relationships view conflict. Erin and Stephen Mitchell break down the 13 conflicts that parent couples should—and must—have to create a stronger relationship and family unit in a such a fun and engaging way. Their invaluable Conflict-to-Connection equation used in real-time fights works wonders, and their scripts and questions for reflection are perfect tools to take with you on your parent-couple journey. This should be required reading for all parents in relationships!” –Michele Borba, Ed.D.

 Author of Thrivers: Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine

“Erin and Stephen Mitchell teach readers how to transform conflict into practical strategies for emotional intimacy and personal growth. I believe this is the book every parenting couple needs on their shelves to maintain a thriving relationship amid the chaos of early parenting.” –Amber Wardell, PhD. 

 Authors of Beyond Self-Care Potato Chips: Choosing Nourishing Self-Care in a Quick-Fix Culture 

“Too Tired to Fight is a hopeful, practical, relationship-saving resource that every parenting couple needs. Erin and Stephen have given us a gold mine of relatable stories, helpful insights, practical tools and loving scrips to navigate the sacred and often complex terrain of holding on to each other while we simultaneously raise our children.”-Eli Harwood @attachmentnerd

 Authors of Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationship

Meet Erin and Stephen

Erin and Stephen are the cofounders of Couples Counseling for Parents, a company focused on providing access to research-informed, psychologically sound online education for couples. Both have a clinical education—Stephen, a PhD in medical family therapy, and Erin, a master’s degree in counseling psychology—and they have a combined 23 years of experience providing counseling and education. They have been married for 15 years and have three kids.

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