Individual Worksheet

Remembering you and your partner are the “We”

What are some specific qualities you appreciate about your partner (thoughtful, steady, funny etc…)?

What are some specific qualities you appreciate about you and your partner together (adventurous, hospitable, support each other, etc…)?

Finish this sentence: We are the (insert your last name (s)) and we are a couple that …

Beginning with the end in mind

Let’s say something magical has happened.  You and your partner went to sleep and when you woke up your relationship with your parents/in-laws was exactly what you wanted.  What would your relationship with them be like (Ex: We would see each other a few times a week/a couple times a year.  We would be able to trust them with our kids.  They would not be critical of our relationship).  List out as many specifics as you can.    

Let’s say something else magical happened.  You and your partner went to sleep and when you woke up your couple communication about your relationship with your parents/in-laws was exactly as you wanted.  What would this look like?  (Ex: I would feel heard.  We wouldn’t get so defensive.  We would be able to identify exactly what we both wanted in the relationship). List out as many specifics as you can.